How to Get Over an Infatuation

A reader asks how to banish an old flame — one she doesn’t even like very much — from her thoughts and desires.

Dear Sugars,I’m infatuated with a man I met in high school. He’s my complete and utter opposite. I’m sensitive and empathic. He’s cruel, aggressive, manipulative and status obsessed. And yet our love affair went on for years. I’ve cheated on multiple boyfriends with him.During our final sexual experience, he was drunk, demeaning and cruel. I seized an opportunity to move out of the country, far away from him. While abroad, I met the man who’s now my husband. Even after meeting him, I still me...